The church is governed and administered by men.1 Peter 5:2-3 KJV Feed the flock of God which is among you, taking the oversight thereof , not by constraint, but willingly; not for filthy lucre, but of a ready mind;
3] Neither as being lords over God’s heritage, but being ensamples to the flock.
These men are to teach and preach and give direction to the flock
Acts 20:28 KJV Take heed therefore unto yourselves, and to all the flock, over the which the Holy Ghost hath made you overseers, to feed the church of God, which he hath purchased with his own blood.
This has no gender to it, whilst this might sound controversial to some, I would leave this bit off for now.
At no point does marriage to a pastor lead to an automatic appointment of the spouse into leadership.
For the Duties and qualifications of leadership are spelt out in
1 Timothy 3 and Titus 1-2, neither says,” Be married to a pastor ”
In fact the Apostle Paul gave a different submission
1 Corinthians 9:5 KJV Have we not power to lead about a sister, a wife, as well as other apostles, and as the brethren of the Lord, and Cephas?
The wives had no official function or position.
There’s not a single mention of the duties of a pastors wife in the entire scriptures.
Many have misunderstood his instruction to Timothy.
1 Timothy 3:11 KJV Even so must their wives be grave, not slanderers, sober, faithful in all things.
It’s the same original word used for women.
For women were deacons.
Romans 16:1 KJV I commend unto you Phebe our sister, which is a servant of the church which is at Cenchrea:
Instructions were made for mature women in the church
Titus 2:3-4 KJV The aged women likewise, that they be in behaviour as becometh holiness, not false accusers, not given to much wine, teachers of good things;  That they may teach the young women to be sober, to love their husbands, to love their children,
Not pastors wives.
If the pastor’s spouse is so qualified, let her function in her merits not by marriage.
We must never override spiritual duties with conjugal privileges.
We have women who functioned in oversight duties but not by marriage.
Romans 16:3-5 KJV Greet Priscilla and Aquila my helpers in Christ Jesus:  Who have for my life laid down their own necks: unto whom not only I give thanks, but also all the churches of the Gentiles. [
5] Likewise greet the church that is in their house. Salute my wellbeloved Epaenetus, who is the firstfruits of Achaia unto Christ.
Though married, Paul mentioned Priscilla first.
This was spiritual not conjugal.
Acts 18:26 KJV And he began to speak boldly in the synagogue: whom when Aquila and Priscilla had heard, they took him unto them , and expounded unto him the way of God more perfectly.
“They” meant both taught the word, for Priscilla was as much a teacher of scriptures as her spouse Aquila.
Romans 16:7 KJV Salute Andronicus and Junia, my kinsmen, and my fellowprisoners, who are of note among the apostles, who also were in Christ before me.
Junia, was a Female and an Apostle.
Not by marriage but by spiritual qualification.
This in no way disqualifies the spouse of any church pastor from ordination or functioning in leadership but this must be done by the way of her meeting the scriptural requirements, which being married to the pastor isn’t one of them.
1 Timothy 5:22 KJV Lay hands suddenly on no man, neither be partaker of other men’s sins: keep thyself pure.
To ordain the newlywed pastors wife into the office of associate pastor is tyranny of the matrimonial relationship over others.
It’s absolutely wrong.
Neither of Moses, David nor any of the prophets had this
Not Peter nor any apostle.
Same as the pastors kids into youth ministry leadership .It absolutely wrong except they are qualified.
Definitely, we do have pastors’ wives who are qualified teachers and preachers same as the children, but this doesn’t and shouldn’t be made a church procedure or tradition by virtue of marriage.
God deals with individual obedience and consecration.
So, dear pastor don’t be under any pressure to magnify your spouse over the church, if she’s a babe or immature spiritually, keep her away from the pulpit.
Let her attend foundation school ,pray like every person ,do evangelism ,submit to church ethos like all,
Don’t foist ” Pastor Mrs”, ” our mummy ” and ” First Lady ” on the flock
It’s carnal and sensual.
Stay with the Word.
You will be orderly and spiritual if you do.
When she grows spiritually and earns the respect of the local church, she would in her merits be a leader without qualms.
Should my spouse be ordained?
Is your spouse spiritually qualified like all others?